literally do what ever the fuck you feel is best for you don’t listen to what anyone else tries to say. Do what you feel you will be most comfortable doing like it might hurt so make him bow down to you and do what ever you say - exactly how you want it. The only thing that may make it hurt less is if you’re really turned on and completely comfortable/confident in whats about to happen. If anything don’t worry about it too much if it doesn’t turn out well you can always try again another time :) Don’t do it untill you’re completely ready make sure he doesn’t go to fast for you and make sure he’s worth it!